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At-Home Not Unemployed

Tuesday, April 19th, 2011 by:

I find mommy questionnaires with the options: working full-time, working part-time, mompreneur, or unemployed insulting. Why should a woman be forced to label herself “unemployed” if she has chosen to spend her time taking care of her children rather than doing something that results in monetary gain?

I don’t know why our society insists on placing a higher value on any occupation that brings in money versus one that will shape the future of a generation. Feminism was supposed to give women the choice of what to do with their time. Instead, it seems to have forced us into the workforce or face a lifetime of justification for staying at home with our family.

Women with kids do not sit around noshing on bon bons and watching reruns of Oprah. As a mother who has chosen to balance (if you can use that word) raising children with a career in journalism I can tell you sitting at a computer and talking to interesting people about subjects I’m passionate about is a breeze compared to potty training, role playing construction or dealing with an opinionated toddler.

There have been many times where the thought of going back to a desk job as an editor sounds akin to an island vacation. I’ve been tempted. Then I hear my four-year-old excitedly tell me about his day, my two-year-old hug me and tell me he missed me when I was out working for two hours or my newborn nuzzle up to me and any thought of going back to work full time is washed away.

I’m happy being at home. I’m lucky enough to have a career that affords me the option to do both, but if it was a choice between staying at home and working full-time I know where my loyalties would lie.

Better Lent than Never

Wednesday, April 6th, 2011 by:

Last week I gave up chocolate for lent. Yes, I realize lent started on March 9th, but Easter seemed like a good deadline to reintroduce this decodance to my diet. Why forgo a favourite?

I realized I was asking my children to do something I couldn’t do myself.

My sons Bode and Beckett were turning into sugar junkies. Just mention the word and my two-year-old becomes so excited that yesterday he spastically smacked me in the face at the thought of sweet temptations.

I preached that sugar wasn’t good for them. It should be a treat. Not something consumed every day. Unfortunately I couldn’t follow the advice myself.

I love chocolate and recently it has infiltrated my diet on such a huge level that the thought of a meal without a cocoa treat afterwards makes me quiver (almost literally). A day without chocolate just doesn’t happen anymore.

How could I ask my children to save candy for a treat when it had become such a regular occurrence in my own diet?

So I decided to stop it. Cold turkey for one month (shy a few days).

To tame my sugar loves my fruit intake, along with my sons’, has skyrocketed. My little experiement may result in family-wide eating improvements.

My sons still ask for candy almost every day. But now I can say it’s only for a treat, without feeling like a hypocrite.