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Archive for September, 2011

Losing Warren

Monday, September 26th, 2011 by:

My husband and I had purchased a house four days after Kyla was born. And–NO–in case you’re wondering it is not a good idea to buy a home when you’ve just had a newborn. Packing and preparing for a move all while nursing a newborn every two hours was stressful. How much can you accomplish when you have to stop, nurse, change and play with your baby every hour or two? Half the time I could not remember where I left off when I returned to packing. I was also still recovering from my C-section so moving around in general was slow and painful.

After we moved, however, I didn’t feel any more relaxed. Another major stress was hanging over my head. My brother Warren was dying.

Warren had been off work since November 2007, when he was diagnosed with a brain tumour. In a small blessing, my maternity leave gave me the time to spend with him before he passed away in September 2008. I was able to share my new baby with him and spend precious time with him.

Ironically, Warren’s diagnosis came the day after I told him I was pregnant. I had six months left in my pregnancy and he was given six months to live.

Warren fought hard and thankfully I was able to share my precious little girl with him. I remember the first time he met Kyla. Warren held her and kissed her and told her silly stories about me as a little girl, it was both beautiful and heart breaking. Warren and I spent our visits talking and reminiscing about our childhood laughing and joking with each other, we would also talk about the fun our kids would have growing up together. Warren had a son James with his wife Christine the year before.

I had to remain strong and hopeful during our visits. Warren had such a positive attitude about his recovery that I did not want to show him any negative emotion. Throughout his entire illness, he (and our family) never gave up hope that he would recover and beat cancer. When Warren died, I realized I wanted my life to change. I wanted more time to spend with the people I cared about. I revaluated my plans and decided to take the full year of maternity leave.

Slowing Things Down

Tuesday, September 20th, 2011 by:

By the time Kyla (now 3) came along in June of 2008, I was ready to slow down. I was even moving slowly. I had only left one week between Kyla’s due date and my last day of work. My thought? No baby ever arrives on their due date, right? Well, Kyla did. After 22 hours of labor and an emergency C-section she arrived, 7lbs 6oz safe, sound, and right on time.

Life really changed for me after that. To my surprise, I enjoyed the slower pace of life. Kyla and I would walk Griffin (our dog) every morning and I loved watching my new baby sleep peacefully in her stroller. I was not expecting to love being at home so much, but I did. I enjoyed being off and spending time with my daughter and not being tied to a rigid work schedule. I could not believe that my days were so full. I didn’t need to work for eight hours in an office to keep busy. Being a mom kept me busy and exhilerated.

The Best Laid Plans

Sunday, September 11th, 2011 by:

I’ve been a Mommy Connections director since March 2011. What does that mean?

A Mommy Connections director is responsible for finding the best mom and baby products, services and classes and bringing them together in one place. Mommy Connections programs provide a place where mom and baby can learn, connect and socialize with their peers.

My journey to becoming a Mommy Connections director began long before I even knew Mommy Connections existed. When I became pregnant with my first child in 2007, I was working full time as a sales representative. I was servicing the Toronto area as a cosmetics rep. It was incredibly busy but I loved every challenge. I remember telling my boss I was only going to take eight to 10 months of my maternity leave as I could not imagine being out of the business for a whole year. I was determined to have it all–a beautiful child and a fast-paced career. Then Kyla arrived.


I Don’t Know How She Does It

Thursday, September 8th, 2011 by:

Every mom needs to know she’s not alone. Our frustrations, dreams of having it all and multi-tasking super feats are not unique; nor are our inevitable pile-ups of mini failures.

To kick off back-to-school we’ve decided to incorporate a new mommy blog. Multi-tasking moms will share how they balance kids, work and their sanity to let you know that you’re not alone. They may even give you a few tips to help your life go more smoothly.

Our first blogger is Lisa Davis, a program director for Mommy Connections Mississauga South. Lisa is also the mother of two smart, energetic little girls. In her former life, she worked in the cosmetic and fragrance industry. Check out her blogs every Monday, starting September 12.